I three grown children My elderly father six younger brothers a large extended family live old country.

last time I took my children a family visit 15 years ago reason I gone back because my youngest brother 21 time fell love my 13-year-old daughter

hell time me because I had watch my child 24 hours a day my brother leave her alone I had support my parents My mother blamed my 13-year-old daughter my dad sat around maintaining his inner peace amidst mayhem.

I stuck there two months because I had money rushing home high season staying a hotel My family's position my brother daughter didn't grow up together ignore fact a 21-year-old business messing a 13-year-old.

I exchange occasional letter my dad brothers I contact brother I out years later managed molest my daughter times despite my efforts keep her safe.

My daughter had counseling help her deal happened a time she convinced love she finally realized she just a little girl responsible happened I still feel guilty protecting her.

15 years my elderly relatives passed away Now I being told I overdue a visit I told my aunt I cannot go back socialize my brother because negate injury he caused My aunt told me get over

My family old country close-knit possible visit without contact particular brother his family when I get photos I discard half because I don't want my daughter dealing memories him.

I being fair my dad rest family staying away I being disloyal my daughter contact I family

I say relatives My oldest brother keeps sending photos my youngest brother nothing happened I cannot put questions my daughter frankly isn't her problem it's mine

Ulrica


Ulrica daughter molested a stranger charges pressed punishment meted out Neither nor daughter had contact perpetrator anyone related him elements allowed a measure healing.

Now feel torn Keeping family members life suggests fashion happened right hurts daughter know touch people complicit a crime daughter dismisses injustice perpetrated her

Nobody punished here except daughter

family should had daughter's best interests heart instead broke one bond had bond blood People our families don't owe us less a duty owe a stranger; owe us a duty When duty met offense lessened doubled.

relationship brother allowed daughter molested family still trying negate responsibility happened perfectly justified cutting off contact involved.

We won't tell exactly say a position give daughter justice court ever able

Wayne & Tamara

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