Direct Answers Wayne Tamara The Best Policy How I help a former friend let go a friendship that's working me? This woman I'll call her Anne a life coach We met last year hit off friends problem me vast majority our conversation centered around Anne her situation particularly related men conversations go guy My honest feedback well received. Prior getting fed up lack balance our friendship I invited her speak a conference I organized event took place last month Anne just okay a speaker Reviews mixed done. Last night Anne left a message indicating she wanted me a referral a potential client I feel bad recommending someone I longer believe effective How I get off her calling list without being unkind? Laurel Laurel situation truthfulness important politeness Politeness get you don't want Anne doesn't take criticism truth well She makes a good first impression she does understanding she trying sell others Giving Anne she wants makes a co-conspirator her incongruity cannot live Just life proceed honesty Anne's Tell Anne reviews her performance don't allow a recommendation she takes offence she taking offence truth Tamara Beating A Dead Horse I American my husband British We met he lived worked two years US When we became engaged we discussed where we wanted settle place America We feel strongly We did decide move UK two years him finish a few things get his US green card much easier abroad home we told his parents we only UK a short time. My mother-in-law a person uses mind games get her way She directly insulted America me claiming everything American greed gun problems She whines her grandchildren close her she even hung up phone my husband She a right brat! I know hard her I understand I really we can't always live around corner I starting get angry My husband told his family welcome come stay us a month longer a time my mother-in-law said I don't fly I don't think I'll Texas My husband knows his mother a difficult woman he hates conflict wants keep peace My mom says keeping my cool best thing Kay Kay before insult royal family British cuisine remember mom's advice keep cool Don't argue mother-in-law very act arguing giving substance her wishes Arguing unsettled may unsettled. When give a difficult person don't reasonable difficult think entitled win time Once moved mother-in-law can visit can afford can visit her. Maybe she'll even Texas maybe she love hate Texas way mother-in-law's behaviour sounds a better argument emigrating living around corner Wayne Authors columnists Wayne Tamara Mitchell can reached http://www.WayneAndTamara.com Send letters to: Direct Answers PO Box 964 Springfield MO 65801 email: DirectAnswers@WayneAndTamara.com | 